My husband has always said that he loves my smile, that my face completely transforms when the sides of my mouth curve up. Frankly, I never really knew what to make of that. Did that mean that my every day “I’m just chillin” kinda face isn’t as appealing. Women have a tendency to overthink things and there’s no doubt that this has been one of those overthought topics for me.
Needless to say, I’ve spent a lot of time comparing numerous smiling photos to non smiling photos trying to figure it out. Maybe it’s my eyes. I’ve always had big eyes and they tend to appear smaller when I smile. Maybe it’s the subtle hint of dimples that occur when I smile, or the nearly perfect teeth that spent 3 years in braces. Maybe it’s that.
After going through all of the major and minor differences I finally realized that the true appeal in my smile is found in what lives behind it. Not just the simple feeling of being happy. Don’t get me wrong, happiness is great. But, happiness is only predicated on what happens. It’s more than that. It’s joy. And joy only comes from one entity. Holy Spirit. So now, I do my best to smile a little bit more each day in hopes of sharing The Comforter with someone else who may truly need comforting. In case you happen to be that someone today, this smile is for you.
The main reason I decided to go natural nearly 3 years ago was simply because I wanted a change. Ever since I took that leap I have been absolutely fascinated with my tresses.
I think of my natural hair as a fun and healthy way to escape the mundane. It allows me the opportunity to go from one look to another without a terrible amount of work.
My natural hair has kept my life and the lives of others just a little more interesting than it would otherwise be. I used to work with a guy who tried to track my hair styles every single day! He finally got to the point where he just couldn’t keep up.
At the end if the day I think of it like this, the Bible says that we are the salt of the earth. Salt ads flavor, which is precisely what I try to do every day. When I walk into a room the atmosphere should change. When people look at me they should see extraordinary not ordinary! Holy Spirit is what truly brings that out. Taking advantage of my natural hair’s versatility offers that extra special something. After all, what’s fine cuisine without garnish?
Be you beauties!
I partnered with an incredible woman tonight who owns a fabulous fashion mobile boutique. White Tent Runway is leading the mobile boutique revolution in the Tampa Bay area and stays on the cutting edge of fashion trends.
I had the opportunity to talk to several ladies who are either natural or currently transitioning at the boutique’s first Friday event, Style Studio. As I encouraged them on their journey’s and offered various natural hair tips based on my experiences I couldn’t help but think about the importance of that kind of interaction when you are in the midst of such a significant change as transitioning.
You may not realize it initially, but not everyone is going to be supportive of your decision. Unless you are fully committed to your natural hair journey there is a good probability that you will not make it to the point of truly being able to enjoy your natural hair. During your transition or post big chop people will look at you sideways and make rude remarks, and unless you are confident, know who you are and love yourself completely, you could easily be persuaded to give up on your journey and revert back to your relaxed hair. If you’re going to do this, you’re going to need curly support!
Staying encouraged by surrounding yourself with people who are supportive of your decision to embrace your natural hair texture is critical! Find inspiration and motivation to stay committed to your journey through other naturals. Visit YouTube and find channels that keep you positive. I encourage you to check out my channel here. Talk to other naturals that you know and trade products and tips. Keep it fun. This is an exciting time in your life. Don’t let people who are unsupportive bring you down. The quote below sums it up It’s only a matter of time before they start asking you how you achieved such gorgeous hair so don’t give up!
So, my growth challenge has got me really feeling myself! Feeling incredibly encouraged and excited about my potential to reach my waist length goal, not necessarily within 6 months but perhaps in 12. It’s amazing to me how one small initiative like a hair growth challenge can inspire you and build up your confidence.
I’ve been taking my all natural vitamins twice a day, playing with protective styles and trying to be more active. The big challenge this week has been drinking more water. Gotta find a way to get it in!
I did get a few new products that I’m really excited to try: Cantu Grow Strong Strengthening Treatment, Bioinfusion Curl Cream, Motions Define My Curls Creme, and Motions Hydrate My Curls Hair Pudding. Super excited about trying these products!
Check out my YouTube video below to find out more about my growth challenge as well as these products and how I plan to use them.
Well…one thing is for sure, my self-love is definitely on overtime! I suppose the natural Be You Beauty thing to do to maintain such a healthy level of confidence like this would be to find more positive, healthy initiatives to take on. Who knows…this could be the beginning of something Be-You-tiful!
It’s hard not to feel good about yourself when you’ve had an opportunity to genuinely apply yourself in the morning. You’ve paired a perfect outfit for the season, created a new hairstyle sure to turn heads and finished it off with a sensational face beat. Unfortunately our realities don’t typically run this smooth. So, how can we assure self confidence in our appearances on those days when we can’t find anything to wear, our hair doesn’t cooperate and we struggle to find time to even apply foundation? Here are my essentials, especially for days like this:
1. Self love on point: this is where loving who you are really comes into play. Recognizing my natural beauty allows me to be confident even on days like this.
2. Mandatory JC check in: usually on days like this I’ve gotten off to a rough start which can have a negative impact on the rest of my day which shows! Getting some prayer/devotional time in during the morning and sporadically throughout the day helps to keep me positive and peaceful.
3. BREAKfast: Even if my rough morning has caused me to run late I always make sure to eat breakfast. A hungry tummy will only contribute to any festering negativity.
3. GLOSS: it’s amazing what a little lipgloss can do. On days when I don’t have time for a complete face beat I rely on my lipgloss. I find that it keeps me looking fresh throughout the day even when the rest of my face is naked.
That’s about it! Those are my mad morning essentials. The next time you’re facing a mad morning of your own try some of these ideas and see if they don’t help get you back on track
Be you beauties!
Holy Spirit told me to tell you that, you look beautiful. Change your focus from trying to look perfect to being you. You don’t have to do nearly as much as you think to enhance your natural beauty. It’s one thing to do it for a creative outlet or fun but quite another to do it to feel fulfilled and beautiful. BE YOU! Your beauty is inevitable.
Sometimes, going to the bathroom has absolutely nothing to do with going to the bathroom. That’s probably more true for me than most other people. I go to the bathroom several times a day just to look at myself. No, I’m not narcissistic and yes, I have a healthy level of self-esteem. My reasoning is completely rationale, at least for me.
Part of my Be You Beauty is my love for makeup. Doing an incredible face beat always makes me feel good. They say that when you look good you feel good and it really is true! Despite what may be going wrong in my work day all I have to do is take a trip to the ladies room, lock myself in the handicap stall and look at myself. I know that probably sounds crazy but in addition to some chat time with JC, it really helps me get through! I figure hey, it’s ok to have a rough day, but don’t look like it. And you know what I’ve noticed, the way that I look has a positive affect on the people around me too. I can’t tell you how many conversations I have a day with different people about my makeup, hair, clothes or nail color. I think that the effort I put into my appearance inspires others and encourages them to separate themselves from their every day grind. This is not at all my primary intention but it makes me feel good to have a positive affect on others nonetheless. Anything I can do, consciously or subconsciously that encourages women to embrace their Be You Beauty is part of me walking in my purpose.
So tomorrow if things get rough, maybe you should take an extra trip to the bathroom.
“When was the last time you pampered yourself?” I asked myself this question and completely ran a blank. Between my 9 to 5 and home life I have not really taken any time for myself. Good old meaningful self love me time. Time that I can just relax my body and mind. Time to get pampered. I’d have to say that I am overdo. Am I floating lonely or is any body else in this same boat? I spend 10 hours of my days on a marketing grind at work, thinking up strategies, putting out fires, trying to execute against ridiculous time lines…blah, blah, blah. Then for AT LEAST 3 hours of the day I’m answering the same timeless sweet call “Mommy!”. Love my baby boy to pieces but omgeee! Then I’m trying to get in some genuine QT family time, followed by hubby time and then…it’s repeat time. Oh, and of course there are my few quick 10 minute breaks I use to chat it up with Jesus or escape into my next blog or YouTube concept.
Yep! That’s my life. Pretty awesome actually. But it’s definitely time for some pampering, after all…you can’t take care of anything or anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first right?
Pampering yourself is a big part of self-care that easily gets lost in between being a mom, wife and building a career. Most women do these three things on overtime, pretty much all the time. So, something has to be done. I have got to schedule some time to love on myself. A massage, facial, spa treatment….something! So, this is my official mental note….it’s time to get pampered woman! And if you’re overdo too…that also goes for you! Do what you need to do in order to keep BEING YOU.